People,
This is a FWD.
In our forum people are talking about art / culture / temples and their own
contribution in these field.
When compared to that this is crap. But thought I will FWD this to you all.
The person who wrote this blog and myself share a common friend
~ Udanx
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Matrimonial Hunt…
Are you a Vadama ? atleast a Tam Brahm ? Do you have H1, if yes can you
please move closer to bay area ? I am 5ft 2 inches, I need a boy who is
atleast 5’10″ if not shorter than kobe bryant ? We prefer iyers from
Palakad, if not preferably from pittsburgh. Give me a break.
Broadminded / like minded / Innocent Divorcee / Chennai Only / H1B holder /
East (or) West Coast – The List is endless.If you look into / get a chance
to browse any of the matrimonial sites / the sunday edition of Hindu /
vernaculars / matrimonial communities which are located in different pockets
of Chennai / South India, you would have definitely come across these above
stated preferences.
What does H1B / anywhere in bay area going to do with your partner ? If i
have preferences of settling in US, I would have accpeted to live as an
american and marry an american. What do they mean broadminded ? – I might be
broadminded but not to the extent of Shoba de. I have seen profiles of
Innocent Divorcees on paper, with the alarming rates of divorces in india,
how come all the divorcees are innocent and ignorant. G.O.K
I had chat with my friend sowmi recently and she confided that it is too
difficult to identify, choose according to one’s preferences. I hear similar
stories from few other friends as well. Marriages of late for the last
decade (or) even before has become more a matter of convenience, than
anything beyond that. If you go to the “Tathpariyams” of marriages, to
understand why we need to go for them, understanding the importance /
sanctity of the age old institution, we can understand that the modern day
marriages have digressed far from the real truth.
I had even heard debates about love marriages vs arranged marriages and I
solemnly believe that there is nothing called love-marriages. According to
me, there are only two kinds of marriages either you arrange yourself (which
others deemed to believe that love exists in them) and the ones which all
the mamas and mamis arrange. If at all there exists love, I solemnly believe
most of the couples experience that feeling when they cross 50. To me modern
day marriages are happening like yet another One day match series which our
BCCI keeps arranging with Pakistan/Australia without any reason.
If this is the case with Indian Marriages, Western marriages are much more
worse. I had a discussion with my english friend O’shaughnessy and he told
me that marriages are more likely to be prelude to go for progeny.
Ironically, what i never understand even after my conversation with him, how
come people go for livein relationships and stay for so many years with a
person and finally decided to marry the same guy and ending up with divorce
immediately.
Preferences of modern day youth (both Men and Women) have changed over the
period. Its no more about complexion,vital statistics etc which matters the
most, but everybody has their own preferences which ranges from the place of
origin to your career ambitions. Probably the truth with modern day are
people are tired of relationships, they are struggling to find a new
partner, new person in their lives. Forget partners, it is very difficult in
the modern day to identify few good friends in your life.
Probably this is not an outlet to express my frustration on the hunt rather
its the attitude of people (particularly Brahm Community) and so called
modern day mindset which is nothing but b****it.
Happy searching if you’re in the hunt and if you’re already married – all
the best for your remaining part of your life.
